How Do I Make Sure She Doesn’t Leave Me?

Guys, it comes as no news to you that we tend to make mistakes, and often these mistakes can threaten our relationships. When you’ve screwed up enough times that she’s looking for the door, desperation can really set in and you’ll do almost anything to make her not want to leave you. Well, I think I can help you.

A big part of convincing your girl to stay with you has to do with figuring out what exactly you’ve been doing that’s been driving her away. Once you figure that out, it becomes a little bit easier to decide just what to do, but not all of us even know what went wrong…so here are a few questions to ask yourself.

-Is it something hurtful or stupid I said? -Have I been spending enough time with her or have I been letting my job rule me? -Have I made sure she understands that her views and opinions are important to me? -Have I given her the emotional support she needs? -Did I forget an important occasion, like a holiday or our anniversary? -Did I pay too much inappropriate attention to another woman, even cheat on her?

These are just a few things that can contribute to a problem, some more “deadly” than others, but really these are if anything just a part of what truly makes a woman want to leave her man. More often than not, it’s a collection or series of these problems over a long period of time that just make her fed up with you and desiring a way out.

There are “little things” and “big things.” Little things are like forgetting a holiday or saying something really stupid and hurtful at just the wrong time…and by calling them “little” things I don’t want you to make the mistake of thinking that they’re excusable and “no big deal.” They hurt too, but they’re just easier to fix than the “big” things.

Cheating on her, not supporting her emotions or helping her to feel loved and like she’s important to you, and not spending enough time with her are all things that can be considered “big.” These can hit hard in a relationship, and getting through one that’s threatened by these can require a lot of sacrifice and change.

Saving a relationship from its problems starts with you stopping the behaviors that started it…this is easiest with the little things. Immediately quitting these things coupled with a heartfelt apology can usually take care of the majority of the recovery needed, but only if you continue to NOT do those things.

Remember that while the little things are generally not relationshipkillers when taken one at a time, repeating them over a long period of time or doing a bunch at once can really mess things up for you and your girlfriend, so you don’t get a free pass with these. Be careful.

The larger problems like unfaithfulness and neglect are the worst destroyers of relationships, because they really wound the person being hit by them. Cheating is the biggest end-all, and it’s really sad how much it comes up these days. More than just having sex with another woman, cheating can be just about anything your girl deems inappropriate for you to be doing with another girl, even if it’s just a lingering glance that lasted too long. Honestly, there’s no reason you should ever make your girlfriend suspicious or jealous, as you really don’t have any reason to look at other women anyways! Isn’t yours good enough?

Frankly, most problems big and small in a relationship can be avoided entirely by paying really close attention and respecting each other. When communication shuts down and you stop listening to one another, things can get hairy pretty fast. If you just devote your attention and time to your girlfriend, things should be pretty good…and on the rare occasion that a problem comes up, you’ll be able to deal with it quickly and effectively.

If your relationship is currently “on the rocks” and not looking very good in spite of how much you want it to succeed, really pay attention to your girlfriend and listen to her. Do whatever you have to in order to make it work, to make sure that she’s happy. Even if it takes some serious sacrifice and compromise, it’s your job in the relationship to make her feel cared-for, and is that really such an unfair job?