5 Simple Steps For Getting Back Your Ex

It should come as no surprise to you that breakups aren’t much fun. In fact, it’s pretty common knowledge that they’re a pain. A lot less known is that you can put an end to all the breakup pain if you follow the steps I have laid out for you to get your ex back.

Getting your ex back may not be the easiest or most simple thing in the world, but it’s a lot easier if you look at it in terms of “chunks” or steps. The division isn’t perfect, as some chunks are bigger than others, but if you take it one step at a time, you have a good chance of getting your ex back.

Step 1: Your first impulse directly after the breakup is usually to plague your ex with what I call the “take me back -attack.” This is a BAD IDEA. Your ex will NOT want to talk to you right now, it’s still too painful. Give the poor person some space, and frankly you could use it too.

Step 2: During the time off from your ex, be constructive. Really analyze how your relationship went awry. What things were YOU responsible for? How could you fix those things so that they couldn’t affect your relationships anymore EVER? These are the things you need to think about, and what’s more…you have to actually take action and change so that you never make those mistakes again! I know that’s a really heavy thing to simply call “Step 2,” but that’s how it is.

Step 3: Once enough time has passed, and you’re well on your way to “flawlessness,” you can go ahead and make contact again with your ex. Remember to keep it very light and simple, just a phone call or email message to see how he/she’s been doing. You don’t want to charge right in with the “please come back” attack, for the same reasons as in Step 1. Just take it slow.

Step 4: The odds aren’t bad that if you played your first contacts well, the two of you will start spending some time together again. At this point, it’s a good idea to do things with your ex that you both used to really enjoy doing as a couple. This brings up happy memories and could help to turn back on your ex’s feelings for you. Also take this time to let the work you’ve been doing on yourself to speak for itself.

Step 5: Chances are your ex just won’t be ready for another try, but if it turns out that you two DO get back together, your chief job becomes not to screw it up again. A broken relationship, even one that’s been mended, is still fragile. You have to work really hard to not make the same mistakes again, and make sure your partner’s being taken care of.

You’ll have a lot of sacrifice and compromise in any relationship, it’s just what’s necessary for two people to share something so close. It’s important to keep from messing up and doing the same mistakes you already made that cost you your first relationship, because next time there may not be any chance to make things right.